Episode 3: It Takes a Village, Why is it So Hard for Moms to Ask for Help and then Admit to Having Help?

Episode Summary:
Spoiler alert- this was a hard one for us! Personally to record, so we know it’s a tough topic! This week, we’re tackling why moms struggle to ask for help. Is it guilt? Fear of judgment? The pressure to do it all? We’re reframing the idea of asking for help as a strength, not a weakness, and sharing real-life moments when we realized we couldn’t (and shouldn’t) do it all alone.

Key Takeaways: 

✅ Asking for help strengthens friendships and builds trust. 

✅ Saying no to help can push people away. 

✅ Help isn’t transactional—you don’t owe someone just because they helped you. 

✅ Outsourcing isn’t failure; it’s a tool that helps moms thrive. 

✅ Learning to embrace your support system (spouse, childcare, friends) can make you a better parent.

Ways to Accept Help Without Guilt: 

🚗 Carpooling—share the load. 

👩‍👧‍👦 Mom swaps—trade tasks with a friend. 

🛑 Just say YES—no over-explaining, just “Yes, please” and “Thank you.” 

🏡 Embracing childcare or household help as a way to balance life and motherhood.

The “I Don’t Do It All” Movement: 

📌Normalize conversations around outsourcing and support. 

📌 Give “Grateful for My Village” shoutouts—publicly acknowledge the help you receive. 

📌 Share behind-the-scenes moments—the messy reality behind “perfect” mom life. 

📌 Answer honestly when someone asks, “How do you do it all?” 

📌 Acknowledge help without guilt—help looks different for everyone.

🌸 Pink Spotlight: 

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